Failure sets you up for success. That is why you should be happy when you fail.
I look at failure as earning a degree in the university of life. It is a current reality. You will mistakes. You will fail. You will lose. That is the absolute truism in life. So what will you do about it? Hide in your room and never show yourself to the world?
To fail is a scary thought. No one wants to fail. If you watch sports, those athletes spend months preparing for competition. In business, entrepreneurs spend resources building up their startups. They invest money, sacrifice time with their family and compromise their sanity with one single objective: to win, succeed.
But there can only be one winner. Everyone else will fail. But what do they do? Some rest for awhile; lick their wounds, regroup then go back to the grind. The rest quit.
In the next competition, it will be the same vicious cycle. One wins the others lose. But for those who came back they get one step closer to meeting their goal.
Here are top 10 reasons why you should be happy when you fail:
1. You Will Cherish Every Little Victory.
There will always be more losers than winners. In the Rio 2016 Olympics, there were more than 60 losers every time Michael Phelps won his Gold medal.
In business, only one bidder will win the contract. Every other business will go back to the office a loser.
It hurts right? Whenever you hear the word “loser,” it’s like the entire world is laughing at you.
But that is the way it is. There will always be one winner. It’s a harsh reality that you should understand and acknowledge as the truth. Because if you don’t, you will never cherish every victory that comes your way even if these are small.
When you lose, you realize how hard it is to win. As the losses keep mounting, you’re starting to think if winning is ever possible. Look at our own Olympian Hidilyn Diaz.
I saw her fail miserably in the 2012 London Olympics. She came in ranked 8th in the world in Weightlifting. She bombed out, and my lasting image was Hidilyn leaving London in tears.
By the time she came back in Rio, Hidilyn was already 4th in the world! She was one step away from the top 3! I knew she was our closest chance for a medal. So I stayed up late to watch her compete.
And Hidilyn did not disappoint when she took the Silver! She left London in tears and left Rio in tears; this time tears of happiness!
The loss in London did not de-motivate her. It strengthened her resolve to keep trying. So she kept winning and slowly climbed the world rankings.
I guarantee Hidilyn Diaz will win the Gold medal in the Japan 2020 Olympics!
2. It Confirms You Are On The Right Track.
“I did not fail 1,000 times; the light bulb was an invention that took 1,000 steps.”
How many times did Thomas Edison fail at inventing the light bulb? Accounts had his failure rate between 1,000 and 111,009; whatever it was, it did not matter to Thomas because he knew he was getting closer.
And we have him to thank for the light that graciously comes up in our homes whenever the sun has gone down.
How many times should you fail before you finally succeed? As many as it takes!
- 242 – The number of banks that rejected Howard Schultz for his coffee shop venture “Starbucks.”
- 400 – The number of companies Sir Richard Branson launched and failed before he founded Virgin.
- 1,009 – The number of times Col. Sanders’ recipe for fried chicken was rejected.
- 1,500 – The number of producers who rejected Sylvester Stallone’s script “Rocky.”
- 5,126 – The number of times James Dyson had failed before he invented the vacuum cleaner.
Remember this Japanese proverb, “Nana Korobi Ya Oki” which translated means “Fall Down Seven Times, Get Up Eight”!
3. It Becomes An Opportunity To Become Better
I can be very hard on myself when I lose because I put in everything that I have when I am committed to a venture or activity.
As a competitive powerlifter, if I didn’t win the Gold, it only means I’ve lost. This was captured in a photograph when I ended up in 2nd place.
A friend asked me why I looked like someone just died when I won the Silver. I said to him, “I didn’t win the Silver. I lost the Gold.”
One time while I was streaming videos, I came across a kickboxing sparring session headed by a world champion kickboxer. He was coaching a neophyte who was about to enter his first sparring session.
The neophyte was brutally knocked out.
At the locker room, the neophyte was crying because he had lost. The coach told him,
“Remember this: if you’re not winning, you’re learning. Anyone who has the courage to pursue his dreams regardless of the odds will always be a winner.” It was an epiphany that changed my perspective on failure.
Understand that failure is not an enemy you should be afraid of. You should embrace failure as if it was your best friend because it is. Your best friend will always tell what’s right or wrong.
Failure will show you where you went wrong so you can become better!