4. It Means You’ve Taken Another Step Forward.
Proponents of Behavioral Leadership say that when you are confronted by a dangerous or precarious situation, fear will set in. That is the normal human reaction. However, in the end, the choice will be yours to make:
Fight, Flight or Freeze?
Behavioral Leadership proponents will advise you not just to fight but to run full speed toward danger. Facing a dangerous situation head on is the most effective way to break through your limitations because the one thing that is holding you back is your fear of failure.
If you win, great. If you lose, guess what? You’ve still won because you have conquered your fear of failure.
What about those who froze or chose to fly away? Where are they now? Either they are stuck in the same place or hiding somewhere away from conflict. They are the ones who usually make a lot of noise when you fail:
“See? I told you so! You shouldn’t have gone through with it. Now you’ve lost.”
No, it is they who have lost. They will never move forward because they are afraid of taking the next step. They are reduced to nothing more than opinion-makers, coach quarterbacks or keyboard warriors.
One year later, they are still hiding behind their limitations while you are so far ahead they can never hope to catch you.
5. You’re Special!
I’ll share with you a secret which will change your life. I don’t know if you’ve heard about it but understanding its meaning has changed many lives including mine. Are you ready for it? Here is the secret:
No one in this world has failed in his or her lifetime. Those new billionaires in the Philippines who came out in the recent issue of Forbes magazine had failed countless of times before they found success.
Research the life of any iconic business leader or political figure; every single one of them has failed at least once in their life.
The risk of failure is with you the second you wake up from sleep. It lurks at every corner; in every decision, you make no matter how great or small. When you make a decision, the result will only end in one of two outcomes; success or failure.
But not many will make that decision because the idea of failure is paralyzing. Thus if you fail, you are special because unlike everyone else you took the chance.
There is no shame in failure, but there is a shame; great shame, for not trying.
6. You’re Experiencing Life!
The road to success is not a straight line. It travels along a winding road with steep climbs and sharp drops.
The road is riddled with potholes; there are sections where you will tread through the mud. You will trek through unforgiving terrain; tree roots hardened by time and rocks long unearthed by erosion are everywhere.
The weather is not always sunny. It is Volatile, Unpredictable, Chaotic and Ambiguous. If you believe that charting your road to success with high tech equipment and the most expensive minds money can buy will guarantee you success, you are wrong.
No matter how you think things through the only thing that is certain is that nothing is certain. No crystal ball exists that can predict your future.
No software program exists to eliminate all possible mistakes. If there is such software, in a few weeks, it will be rendered obsolete by a newer model. What then will you do?
We are human beings; we are flawed creatures capable of making mistakes and falling into failure. But it is in our imperfections that we are the most beautiful and perfect creatures on earth!
Our ability to fail is the reason why machines and computers can never replace us. We fail because our emotions betray better judgment, yet our emotions allow us to anticipate and foreshadow problems before it happens. We have intuition; machines don’t.
Life is all about experiencing its beauty and ugliness. We are imperfect creatures in an imperfect world. Embrace your flaws and live your fears!
7. You Become Tougher.
April 7, 2014, was a date I could not forget. It was just one day before the birthday of my son. We were planning a nice day out for him as summer vacation had just started.
But that morning I received an e-mail from a client. It said the company decided to pre-terminate our contract and re-align its limited resources toward a new business direction.
It was devastating because of my company, Benchmark Global, was already gaining traction. 2 years earlier my previous company also lost its flagship client which led to its eventual demise.
I could not let this happen again.
I was marketing and networking to find clients 8 hours every day. I would start from 8 am to 12 pm then again from 8 pm to 12 am. In between, I would schedule meetings with local companies, existing contacts and present the company at business forums, trade shows, and conventions.
In one stretch, I was able to schedule 17 meetings within ten days. And I was rejected by everyone.
My failure rate had gotten so high, and it was off the charts. I could not bear to face my wife and son anymore. I felt like a disgrace and that I had let them down.
But I had no choice. I had to keep trying. I told myself to work harder but smarter. Every time I heard those voices come at night reminding me how much I had failed, I would rise from the bed and work.
Eventually, we started getting more clients onboard. And as we succeeded, clients renewed their contracts and gave us referrals.
The lesson I learned was this:
When you do the things you don’t feel like doing is when you will eventually find success.